Tag: sex workers

  • Why would you want to be a sex worker?

    Why would you want to be a sex worker?

    Veronica Veronese* by Dante Gabriel Rossetti painted in 1872 with Alexa Wilding as the model.  It is believed to represent “the artistic soul in the act of creation”. I’ve always liked new beginnings although of course generally they are nothing more than a mental reset. So the start of a new year is as good a…

  • Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?

    Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?

    “I loved you since I knew ya, I wouldn’t talk down to ya”…* I’ve known sex workers since I began working as a teenager who have been in long term relationships with people since before they were sex workers, as well as relationships which started while they were sex workers with their clients and with…

  • Dear Baby Hooker…

    Dear Baby Hooker…

    Congratulations!  You’ve recognised that you can put a value on something that there is a bit of a demand for and decided to become a sex worker.  Here are some things that I’ve gleaned over the years, or that I wish I’d known way back when. Once you’ve been a sex worker, you will always…

  • Are you old enough?

    Are you old enough?

    Still from the music video of Dragon’s Are You Old Enough?   The legal age to be a sex worker in New Zealand is 18 and most sex workers will not accept clients under 18.  According to my (light) investigations, there is actually no age restriction for sex workers’ clients other than the age restriction…

  • Fear of Fifty

    Fear of Fifty

    Flidais, my favourite Celtic Goddess, of a voracious sexual appetite Part of us wants to love like the goddesses — coldly and capriciously. Part of us owes allegiance to Kali, eating her lover and attaching his skull to her waist. Part of us wants to love like Juno, scooping up mortal men, toying with them, then…

  • Where to from here?

    Where to from here?

    Amber O’Hara not ready to turn her back on sex work … yetIt’s hard to believe that it’s almost a year since I embarked again on the sex work journey with certain financial goals in mind. My very first blog post, my personal yet public record of the events related to becoming a sex worker,…

  • Slightly kink – Greek

    Slightly kink – Greek

      The tiniest bit of what I do is slightly kink, so if you get slightly squeamish about anything that is not totally straight you may want to skip this post.  Because it’s about anal.  I first heard about anal sex as an enjoyable concept when I was a young woman.  A friend of mine…

  • Slightly kink – Japanese

    Slightly kink – Japanese

    I don’t know if it is a thing that japanese people* do – but we jokingly call sex while menstruating “Japanese”, referring to the fact that a large red puddle of blood on a white sheet resembles the japanese flag. Yes, more squemishness may be in store for you and you may even doubt this but…

  • Who’s that talking about you?

    Who’s that talking about you?

    Sharon O’Neill (right) who wrote the song Maxine with the actress who played her in the Australian version of the music video (which this image is taken from.) A few days after my Christmas day blog post about whether or not a sex worker should tell her family she is a sex worker, I had a long…

  • All hookers are crazy

    All hookers are crazy

    Like many sex workers, Brigid was a goddess of contradiction. I do believe that, to a degree, due to the nature of the job, all hookers are slightly crazy.  That’s because, among the many other crazy-making issues, the one that is the most anxiety-inducing of all is that no matter how open about what we…

  • Who are my clients?

    Who are my clients?

    Édouard Manet painting possibly representing clients and sex workers Some people are curious and I have been asked who my clients are. I suspect to make themselves feel better about their negative attitudes towards sex work and to feel removed from it as much as possible, some like to think of sex workers’ clients as…

  • Touring Roundup

    Touring Roundup

    The Canterbury Plains from the air I have recently completed a wee bit of touring and I thought I would post a few thoughts here. A number of you read my post where I mentioned an incident at a motel, and attention was brought to other incidents where touring working girls had left without paying…

  • Be nice to me, Invercargill (and Queenstown)

    Be nice to me, Invercargill (and Queenstown)

    I, with two of my beautiful working girl friends, are lucky enough to be visiting Invers tomorrow, Friday and Saturday.  I think it is my first time, ever, in my whole life that I have ever been there.  Imagine my excitement! I’ll then be back in Christchurch on Monday, then I’ll be taking a couple…

  • Places I have worked part 3

    Places I have worked part 3

    I’ve always hated this corny song, although this version seems tolerable.  Play it while you read my post. A brothel next to a nunnery.  Seriously, it was.  There was a convent next door to Tudor Court where nuns lived.  Once some visiting elderly nuns walked up our path accidentally while the girls were all sitting…

  • Places I have worked part 2

    Places I have worked part 2

    London.  London was a very strange town to find work in.  Luckily I wasn’t desperate for money but I thought it would be interesting to check out the sex work scene, mainly so I could say I had done it. Even though it was equally as illegal to be a sex worker as it was…

  • Places I have worked part 1

    Places I have worked part 1

    This is the first part in a series of reminiscences about places I have worked.  I mentioned earlier that I had worked as a sex worker one summer as a teenager, back then when it was still illegal. The Penthouse was the first place I worked in when I entered the sex industry in Australia.…

  • Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?

    Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?

    Image: Wellington Harbour, where I entered into the sex industry as a ship girl  Most people who get into sex work get into it initially for one reason and one reason only – they need money fast.  Sometimes lingering under or just above the surface though, is an interest in or fascination with the sex…

  • The money, honey part 2

    The money, honey part 2

    Disclaimer: This lovely pile of dosh was not all earned by Amber O’Hara, neither is it indicative of an amount a “typical” sex worker could expect to earn on a daily basis in New Zealand   One skill that all working girls could consider getting would be the knowledge of how to keep a cash…

  • The money, honey part 1

    The money, honey part 1

      It’s not that hard to go legit as a hooker, so I thought I would share a few things that I have found in case any other working girls who read my blog are interested. The first thing is to remember that we are actually in a pretty fortunate position here in New Zealand,…

  • Et tu, Google+?

    Et tu, Google+?

    Amber O’Hara’s now banned Google Plus profile Gosh, it’s as if sex workers don’t have enough to juggle with, without now being overly-censored by the stuffy and the righteous on this vast wasteland of free porn, otherwise known as the Internet.  Oh well, Google+, (who are still hoping to become the new Facebook,) which I…

  • To the men who respond to my newspaper advertisements

    To the men who respond to my newspaper advertisements

    my little advert Please don’t think that because I’m advertising in the Press or your free community newspapers, alongside the traditionally lower-priced but sometimes fictional Asian agency ladies, that I am also prepared to offer my services for lesser amounts than I advertise elsewhere. If the truth be told, I would love to see you,…

  • Favourite lingerie – part 2

    Favourite lingerie – part 2

    MILF feeling wild… The very first corset I bought was this red one.  I don’t wear it so much now because it has got a bit “baggy” and has some strange bulges in parts, even when it is on the tightest hook and eye fastening, perhaps because I loved it and wore it so much.…

  • Favourite lingerie – part 1

    Favourite lingerie – part 1

      One of my favourite pieces of lingerie is my black corset.   It is constructed of a satin-like fabric, is boned and has lacing up the back.  I normally wear it with lace boy shorts and thigh-high stay-up stockings. I was never really into corsets but now I am obsessed with them.  If fitted properly…