Tag: sex workers

  • Fantasies about men

    Fantasies about men

    Still from music video: It’s Raining Men, by the Weather Girls When I’m not doing sex work full-time, I actually miss fucking, and as a result of this, my imagination works overtime. I occasionally work in an office, answering the phone: “Good morning, (Company Name).  (My real name) speaking” and generally being a real little…

  • Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L word

    Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L word

    A mention of Amber O’Hara from a brief round up of websites of sex workers by a kind client I have met sex workers who have fallen in love with their clients and “ended up” together, so I guess the answer to the question, Do sex workers and clients fall in love? is yes.  Love can…

  • I can’t make you love me

    I can’t make you love me

    It is probably safe to assume that most of society, even those who pride themselves on thinking progressively, in their heart of hearts, looks down on sex workers, but are mostly too polite to say so to our faces.  In the media, society’s attitude toward sex work is reflected often, even in the supposedly more…

  • Lurking and Peering and the Culture of Complaint

    Lurking and Peering and the Culture of Complaint

    The day I visited my friend and fellow sex worker, Clio, at her house*, I was wearing my (non-sex worker-like) day clothes of jeans and a plain, dark woollen top and carrying a large, black art portfolio, as I was visiting to show Clio some sketches from a creative project I started at university. As…

  • Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco

    Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco

    This blog post may not be of interest to many readers because it is about a film that not many will get to see and it is not really a film that’s even worth seeking out.  But it’s about buying sex, which involves clients of sex workers so I thought I would give my take…

  • Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF

    Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF

    MILF, Ms O’Hara, has a thing going on with a number of young and young-at-heart men My non-Amber, slightly frumpy, mother-next-door self lives a double life as an insatiable MILF and this little secret injects a huge amount of spice into my life. As Amber, I am ready in my boudoir wearing tiny corsets, stockings and…

  • The pleasures of non-sex work

    The pleasures of non-sex work

    I often write about how much I love sex work, and one of the reasons I love it as a lifestyle is because it gives me so much time to get involved with various projects as non-Amber. Since I began sex working again, I learned a lot about publishing on Amazon kindle by guinea-pigging myself…

  • My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)

    My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)

    Disclaimer: I have never seen Charlie Sheen as a working girl Some celebrities, like Charlie Sheen, are well-known for having enjoyed the services of sex workers, and others have managed to keep it on the down low.  It’s not as if Mr Sheen outed himself, but he doesn’t seem overly bothered that it is out…

  • Fond Farewells

    Fond Farewells

    This is a final blog post, by my friend, Clio the ex-whore, recently retired. Retirement only sort of suits me. Only a couple of weeks ago an ex colleague and I were reminiscing over a few cocktails. We don’t miss it, we said, isn’t great to have a straight job and be proper respectable women…

  • Sex workers and websites: if you build it will they come?

    Sex workers and websites: if you build it will they come?

    Although many sex workers are still getting websites built for them or DIYing it with free sites like WIX or blogs, I have heard some saying they don’t know what to do with them (“now what?”) or how to get clients (“traffic”) to go to them. So I’ve been picking the brains of one or…

  • Can his family affect a man’s confidence in bed?

    Can his family affect a man’s confidence in bed?

    Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny de Vito, two quite sexy dudes, played test-tube brothers in the film Twins* My usual Christmas blog posts have something related to families since this is the season to be with our kin or if not, due to distance or some other factor, at least give our thoughts to them for…

  • Sex Workers’ Supporters: Please take a bow

    Sex Workers’ Supporters: Please take a bow

    Sex work: sometimes it really is fields of daisies and buttercups.  Painting by John William Waterhouse. Frequently during discussions about sex work, the subject is raised of bitches and bitchiness among sex workers.  Perhaps images of girls pillow fighting while wearing skimpy underwear is tantilising, and often there are suggested scenarios of “professional jealousy” causing…

  • A taboo subject: sex workers from the same family

    A taboo subject: sex workers from the same family

    1978 movie Pretty Baby publicity still*  As Christmas is for family get-togethers, I occasionally ponder at this time of year, the place of sex workers within, or their relationships with, their families.  Lately I have been talking with a few sex workers who have other family members also in the industry. Even though there are…

  • What’s the deal with female orgasms?

    What’s the deal with female orgasms?

    Oh my.  To my delight, my phone has been ringing lately with a few gentlemen who actually express that they have an intention for me to also come (or cum, but I prefer the other spelling).  I think it is wonderful that for whatever reason, and there are probably many motivations for this, men are wanting…

  • Selling sex

    Selling sex

      It seems that a few sex workers I have spoken to get a bit funny about the bit where clients hand over the money, and I can’t for the life of me see why.  To me, it is one of the most exciting parts and it is what differentiates us sex workers from the…

  • Sex work, mental health and sex addiction

    Sex work, mental health and sex addiction

    From the show The Daring Young Man on the Flying Trapeze by Max Gimblett I found it interesting when a sex worker I am acquainted with wrote that her father, on finding out she was a sex worker, enquired as to how she was going to safe guard her soul.  He could just as easily have…

  • What it’s like to be the only one

    What it’s like to be the only one

    Stephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch.  It seems that even though our laws are similar, that is, that penetrative oral sex must also be covered, in recent times, in Australia sex workers have…

  • Seduce me with song

    Seduce me with song

    The End of the Song by Edmund Leighton(1902) illustrates the story of Tristan and Iseult, a tragedy about the adulterous love between the Cornish knight Tristan (Tristram) and the Irish princess Iseult (Isolde, Yseult). There are so many secret nerves in the body, that it is impossible to keep track.  There is a nerve which…

  • Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?

    Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?

    The first time I saw this image on an ex-punter’s blog, I just about came on the spot.  For some reason, it really does it for me.  Mainly because I find oral, from this angle in particular (as opposed to from the downward approach during 69ing), the most pleasing thing ever, and if a man…

  • Pleasure

    Pleasure

    Poor is the man* Whose pleasures depend On the permission of another From Justify My Love by Madonna © 2006 WMG Pleasure, according to a book I have been reading about women and aging, is something women deny themselves far more than is good for us.  Apparently there is something that is released in our…

  • Love Within Sex Work

    Love Within Sex Work

    I found this tweet the other day and it really resonated with me.  It’s because I feel exactly the same about my clients.  I really love those dudes!  A lot of the time I give my heart and soul to my clients, and get it back in spades. Which got me thinking.  Is this professional,…

  • Talk dirty to me

    Talk dirty to me

    You may have noticed that I offer a new service now, namely phone sex. I’ve always been the girl who loves sex and especially loves to talk about sex, I guess that’s why I have this blog: so that those who want to listen (read) can.  But there is something even more wanton when you…

  • Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

    Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

    (life as art) This long post was originally written for a sex industry association with the brief How Not to Pick the Wrong Sex Worker and the tagline “warning signs for clients”. It has been adapted for my blog Is there a wrong type of service provider or only a wrong type of service provider…

  • Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers

    Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers

    I have to say we’re pretty darned lucky in countries like New Zealand where sex work is 100% legal because it means that if anyone tries to harm us, the cops are on our side. Absolutely fabulous situation, it means exactly that because there is the threat, of the long arm of the law who…

  • High-class tarts versus low-down whores

    High-class tarts versus low-down whores

    Portrait of a Courtesan (c. 1520) by Palma Vecchio I always find it interesting to hear opinions on the classes of sex workers and who fits where.  As I mentioned in my post about ship girls, we ship girls were considered pretty darn low-class for having sex with sailors, yet I found that the clients were…

  • Let It Be Known

    Let It Be Known

    I really love what I do.  I honestly feel that what I do helps mankind and is almost a spiritual service.  I don’t mind if you laugh.  I’m not saying I’m holy, or godly – I realise I’m the polar opposite of a nun.  But I know that I’ve helped people through this line of…

  • OUT!

    OUT!

    The Scream by Edvard Munch One thing sex workers seem to fear most is being outed, or an aspect of their lives being outed, and interestingly it is probably the most well-used threat some sex workers make against others. However, quite often sex workers let things slip, for example by their lifestyles or in conversations…

  • The virgin and the whore

    The virgin and the whore

    I know someone who decided to save her virginity until she got married, but eventually she became a crusty old unmarried thing rattling around with that dastardly virginity which she just could not lose, as potential husbands became thin on the ground, even with the glittering reward of her virginity on offer.  I, on the…

  • Advice from a Client

    Advice from a Client

    Les Nymphes et le Satyre by William Bouguereau. 1873, Clark Art Institute, Williamstown, Massachusetts. I welcome contributions from readers and clients, and while the contributor below has never been to see me, I gather he has chalked up quite a bit of experience seeing working ladies in his time.  Over to him: I have been…

  • Politics and Working Girls

    Politics and Working Girls

    A working girl (in the other sense of the word or apparently the equal of*) Like all tales of politics, this could get long and boring.  Personally, I have spent my life being a tiny dot amongst big groups of people starting with my huge immediate and wider family and large church communities, various groups…