Tag: sex work
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Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)
I’ve seen the OWE (other woman experience) happen a wee bit in my time doing sex work. Last year a working girl friend of mine had a year long (in his eyes it was an affair) series of bookings with a regular client who declared his undying love, promised exotic holidays which she turned down…
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Men’s fantasies – Porn Star Experience (PSE)
It’s the fantasy of a lot of men to fuck a porn star or fuck like a porn star but sadly it is beyond reach for most guys. However if you visit a sex worker who specialises in PSE, it’s like you can direct and star in your very own porn movie with a very…
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Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)
Amber O’Hara’s mirror selfie in her boudoir Men who are single or whose partners are choosing to abstain from sex often have a desire or a fantasy for a more intimate and connecting sexual experience as if they were in the bed of a hot girlfriend who will not smack his hand or make him…
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To Network or Not to Network
It can be lonely being a sex worker yet I’ve met a few ladies who prefer to stay away from any socialising online or in real life and keep to themselves. They don’t want any dramas despite the benefits that can be had from meeting and greeting with other working girls or clients. I can…
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Is your heart safe?
La Belle Dame Sans Merci, painted by Sir Frank Francis Bernard Dicksee Can sex work involve real affection or is one or both parties just being played? I don’t consider whatever feelings I’ve ever had or that have ever been declared to me during sex work ‘true love’, whatever the fuck that is, but I…
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What to do if you bump into your sex worker in public
Image: Bob Hoskins and Cathy Tyson from the film, Mona Lisa (1986) We all need to get out and about in the world to buy stuff and whatever, and sometimes we are with our families, work colleagues, friends or partners when a sex worker bumps into one of her clients. So what is the correct…
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Don’t give me culture!
I share my favourites from the world of culture: film, music and the arts on my “keeper” list. These ones are all erotic and/or sex work related. My favourite typecast actress would have to be Anita Morris, who normally plays the horny redhead. You will recognise her from the She Was Hot (Rolling Stones) video;…
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Cleanliness and godliness
The other day I was in a cafe and there was a young mother at the next table. She screwed up her nose a bit and said to her son, about 11 years old, “have you had a shower today?” He was quick to say yes, but I quickly glanced at his mother and she…
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Flirting and Squirting
My Nanna when she was alive was an incorrigible flirt. Even as she was dying in hospital, she was batting her eyelashes at and flirting with the male nurses, who were generous enough to humour her and play along. She used to say that every man deserves to be flirted with, that it’s good for…
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The Joy of Sex (Toys)
Gif: One of my favourite actresses, the late Anita Morris getting off on a mini vacuum cleaner from the film Ruthless People (a must-see if only for two of the great redhead stereotypes) The other week when a lovely client was going down on me and I was focusing on the amazing sensation, it dawned…
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Desire: The Secret
The Fisherman and the Syren by Frederic Leighton (1858) Sometimes when I start writing, if I have a theme or an idea I want to think about, I search online for the single word or phrase. I did this with desire only to discover that there are many self-help books out there around spirituality, in particular…
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Fantasies about men
Still from music video: It’s Raining Men, by the Weather Girls When I’m not doing sex work full-time, I actually miss fucking, and as a result of this, my imagination works overtime. I occasionally work in an office, answering the phone: “Good morning, (Company Name). (My real name) speaking” and generally being a real little…
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Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L word
A mention of Amber O’Hara from a brief round up of websites of sex workers by a kind client I have met sex workers who have fallen in love with their clients and “ended up” together, so I guess the answer to the question, Do sex workers and clients fall in love? is yes. Love can…
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I can’t make you love me
It is probably safe to assume that most of society, even those who pride themselves on thinking progressively, in their heart of hearts, looks down on sex workers, but are mostly too polite to say so to our faces. In the media, society’s attitude toward sex work is reflected often, even in the supposedly more…
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Lurking and Peering and the Culture of Complaint
The day I visited my friend and fellow sex worker, Clio, at her house*, I was wearing my (non-sex worker-like) day clothes of jeans and a plain, dark woollen top and carrying a large, black art portfolio, as I was visiting to show Clio some sketches from a creative project I started at university. As…
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A Way to Spend Money
Sex work is about sex and money, so I often think about money and what to do with it. Money is just a tool with which we build our freedom, but not having any of this freedom-tool is not much fun at all. And yet I am surprised at the drama that surrounds so much…
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Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco
This blog post may not be of interest to many readers because it is about a film that not many will get to see and it is not really a film that’s even worth seeking out. But it’s about buying sex, which involves clients of sex workers so I thought I would give my take…
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So, you are the black sheep of the family…
Christmas is the time of year when we are confronted by where we came from – most of us, while not necessarily being physically present with our family members, at least make contact with them – and the realities of who they are (and maybe what they have always been like) becomes glaringly apparent. Families…
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Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF
MILF, Ms O’Hara, has a thing going on with a number of young and young-at-heart men My non-Amber, slightly frumpy, mother-next-door self lives a double life as an insatiable MILF and this little secret injects a huge amount of spice into my life. As Amber, I am ready in my boudoir wearing tiny corsets, stockings and…
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My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)
Disclaimer: I have never seen Charlie Sheen as a working girl Some celebrities, like Charlie Sheen, are well-known for having enjoyed the services of sex workers, and others have managed to keep it on the down low. It’s not as if Mr Sheen outed himself, but he doesn’t seem overly bothered that it is out…
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Sex work is hot!
Image: Flight of the Conchords still from the video Sugalumps That lady with the chopsticks at the beginning of the video. I get like that. So, sex work can be pretty darn hot. Sometimes I feel like a slutty 16 year old all over again. (Other days not so much.) But it is so much…
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Fond Farewells
This is a final blog post, by my friend, Clio the ex-whore, recently retired. Retirement only sort of suits me. Only a couple of weeks ago an ex colleague and I were reminiscing over a few cocktails. We don’t miss it, we said, isn’t great to have a straight job and be proper respectable women…
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The joy of (phone) sex
Among the men I am fortunate to sexually liaise with are interesting, intelligent, creative types. One of my clients who I regularly enjoy phone sex with is in this category and he thanked me by sending me his account of a recent session. I find it very erotic. He has given me permission to share it. …
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Sex workers and websites: if you build it will they come?
Although many sex workers are still getting websites built for them or DIYing it with free sites like WIX or blogs, I have heard some saying they don’t know what to do with them (“now what?”) or how to get clients (“traffic”) to go to them. So I’ve been picking the brains of one or…
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Sex Workers’ Supporters: Please take a bow
Sex work: sometimes it really is fields of daisies and buttercups. Painting by John William Waterhouse. Frequently during discussions about sex work, the subject is raised of bitches and bitchiness among sex workers. Perhaps images of girls pillow fighting while wearing skimpy underwear is tantilising, and often there are suggested scenarios of “professional jealousy” causing…
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A taboo subject: sex workers from the same family
1978 movie Pretty Baby publicity still* As Christmas is for family get-togethers, I occasionally ponder at this time of year, the place of sex workers within, or their relationships with, their families. Lately I have been talking with a few sex workers who have other family members also in the industry. Even though there are…
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What’s the deal with female orgasms?
Oh my. To my delight, my phone has been ringing lately with a few gentlemen who actually express that they have an intention for me to also come (or cum, but I prefer the other spelling). I think it is wonderful that for whatever reason, and there are probably many motivations for this, men are wanting…
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Sex work, mental health and sex addiction
From the show The Daring Young Man on the Flying Trapeze by Max Gimblett I found it interesting when a sex worker I am acquainted with wrote that her father, on finding out she was a sex worker, enquired as to how she was going to safe guard her soul. He could just as easily have…
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What it’s like to be the only one
Stephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch. It seems that even though our laws are similar, that is, that penetrative oral sex must also be covered, in recent times, in Australia sex workers have…
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Seduce me with song
The End of the Song by Edmund Leighton(1902) illustrates the story of Tristan and Iseult, a tragedy about the adulterous love between the Cornish knight Tristan (Tristram) and the Irish princess Iseult (Isolde, Yseult). There are so many secret nerves in the body, that it is impossible to keep track. There is a nerve which…