Tag: mature

  • Evolution of an escort

    Evolution of an escort

    Click here for enlarged image of The Garden of Earthly Delights by Hieronymus Bosch.  *Image information at the end of this post. I have been interviewed about being an escort a couple of times in Australia many years ago and not so long ago in New Zealand. I personally love to hear stories of how things…

  • Don’t go back!

    Don’t go back!

    I wanted to do a follow up post to my very early ones about some of my favourite things to wear for sex work. I could have deleted those posts (not just because they are dated) celebrating my black corset, red body suit,  white lingerie and red satin corset but I wanted to keep the…

  • Is sex work a profitable business?

    Is sex work a profitable business?

    A diagram of Michael Porter’s Five Forces based on an image from Porter M. E., Competitive Advantage: Creating and Sustaining Superior Performance (New York: Free Press, 1985), page 5. I once had a lady come and visit me for the day in Christchurch from Wellington because she wanted to interview me to figure out whether…

  • Sex work after lockdown

    Sex work after lockdown

    You can’t please all of the people all of the time. You’ll need to login to enjoy this anonymous phone message It seems not long ago that Covid-19 broke out and we were forced into lockdown, and now we are nearly into level 2. According to the government business website, in level 2, non-medical massage…

  • Not About The Heart Of Darkness; Whoring As A Profession At The End Of Capitalism*

    Not About The Heart Of Darkness; Whoring As A Profession At The End Of Capitalism*

    This is a guest post by Christchurch escort Clio** the Whore. ‘You live in a fantasy’, says my client wistfully. He is lying on my bed in a state of post coital triste, having expounded to me his marital problems. He looks around him, at the beautiful room bathed in golden light with its fin…

  • What a Way to Make a Living

    What a Way to Make a Living

    Hylas and the Nymphs is a 1896 oil painting by John William Waterhouse. So I’m well and truly back into sex work, although with later hours than I have ever worked due to other things I am doing in my life – so I am truly a “lady of the night”. This has brought with…

  • Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    A guest contributor on my blog last year wrote in favour of mature ladies, acknowledging the benefits of more experience and knowledge of the wonders of a woman’s sexuality. While agreeing with this, as an “enlightened” (or I could say mature) woman who now feels okay about being real about my age – and a…

  • Deeper and Deeper

    Deeper and Deeper

    Still images in this blogpost are all from Madonna’s official video for Deeper and Deeper. Beware!  Our idols and demons will pursue us, until we learn to let them go! Now that I am a lady of a certain age, different things matter to me.  I like to take time smelling the roses, and I’m…

  • What’s a nice girl like me doing in a job like this?

    What’s a nice girl like me doing in a job like this?

    So people sometimes ask me, “what’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?” Well – First of all, the place I work is really rather nice and I can honestly say, I am in the best working situation I have ever had.  I set my own hours, my own rates, and…

  • Men love to look

    Men love to look

    How to hold the attention of men* There comes an interesting time in the lives of young women when we realise the effect that our body has on men.  It could be when out of the corner of our eye, we see that male head is turned as we totter across the road in our…

  • Fantasies about men

    Fantasies about men

    Still from music video: It’s Raining Men, by the Weather Girls When I’m not doing sex work full-time, I actually miss fucking, and as a result of this, my imagination works overtime. I occasionally work in an office, answering the phone: “Good morning, (Company Name).  (My real name) speaking” and generally being a real little…

  • Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF

    Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF

    MILF, Ms O’Hara, has a thing going on with a number of young and young-at-heart men My non-Amber, slightly frumpy, mother-next-door self lives a double life as an insatiable MILF and this little secret injects a huge amount of spice into my life. As Amber, I am ready in my boudoir wearing tiny corsets, stockings and…

  • Sex work is hot!

    Sex work is hot!

    Image: Flight of the Conchords still from the video Sugalumps That lady with the chopsticks at the beginning of the video.  I get like that. So, sex work can be pretty darn hot.  Sometimes I feel like a slutty 16 year old all over again.  (Other days not so much.)  But it is so much…

  • Fifty Shades of Fucked Up*

    Fifty Shades of Fucked Up*

    NOT a scene from the film but these are the male and female leads.  *”Fifty Shades of Fucked Up” is how the character Christian Grey describes himself. I did not leave the cinema totally disappointed, I have sat through worse films than Fifty Shades of Grey.  This is a nice little film.  It is ok. …

  • What’s the deal with female orgasms?

    What’s the deal with female orgasms?

    Oh my.  To my delight, my phone has been ringing lately with a few gentlemen who actually express that they have an intention for me to also come (or cum, but I prefer the other spelling).  I think it is wonderful that for whatever reason, and there are probably many motivations for this, men are wanting…

  • What it’s like to be the only one

    What it’s like to be the only one

    Stephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch.  It seems that even though our laws are similar, that is, that penetrative oral sex must also be covered, in recent times, in Australia sex workers have…

  • Seduce me with song

    Seduce me with song

    The End of the Song by Edmund Leighton(1902) illustrates the story of Tristan and Iseult, a tragedy about the adulterous love between the Cornish knight Tristan (Tristram) and the Irish princess Iseult (Isolde, Yseult). There are so many secret nerves in the body, that it is impossible to keep track.  There is a nerve which…

  • Does the G-Spot exist?

    Does the G-Spot exist?

    Meg Ryan from When Harry Met Sally This is just a short post because occasionally I hear people saying the g-spot is a load of old cobblers.  That may or may not be true as far as any anatomical identification goes in medical school.  Rumour has it that it is the secret internal spot on the…

  • Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

    Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

    (life as art) This long post was originally written for a sex industry association with the brief How Not to Pick the Wrong Sex Worker and the tagline “warning signs for clients”. It has been adapted for my blog Is there a wrong type of service provider or only a wrong type of service provider…

  • The virgin and the whore

    The virgin and the whore

    I know someone who decided to save her virginity until she got married, but eventually she became a crusty old unmarried thing rattling around with that dastardly virginity which she just could not lose, as potential husbands became thin on the ground, even with the glittering reward of her virginity on offer.  I, on the…

  • Advice from a Client

    Advice from a Client

    Les Nymphes et le Satyre by William Bouguereau. 1873, Clark Art Institute, Williamstown, Massachusetts. I welcome contributions from readers and clients, and while the contributor below has never been to see me, I gather he has chalked up quite a bit of experience seeing working ladies in his time.  Over to him: I have been…

  • Why would you want to be a sex worker?

    Why would you want to be a sex worker?

    Veronica Veronese* by Dante Gabriel Rossetti painted in 1872 with Alexa Wilding as the model.  It is believed to represent “the artistic soul in the act of creation”. I’ve always liked new beginnings although of course generally they are nothing more than a mental reset. So the start of a new year is as good a…

  • Fear of Fifty

    Fear of Fifty

    Flidais, my favourite Celtic Goddess, of a voracious sexual appetite Part of us wants to love like the goddesses — coldly and capriciously. Part of us owes allegiance to Kali, eating her lover and attaching his skull to her waist. Part of us wants to love like Juno, scooping up mortal men, toying with them, then…

  • Who are my clients?

    Who are my clients?

    Édouard Manet painting possibly representing clients and sex workers Some people are curious and I have been asked who my clients are. I suspect to make themselves feel better about their negative attitudes towards sex work and to feel removed from it as much as possible, some like to think of sex workers’ clients as…

  • Sex work, objectification and being a MILF

    Sex work, objectification and being a MILF

    Not quite like this, but a still from a funny scene from a great 80s movie, Hotel New Hampshire which is so hot, youtube makes you login to see it.  You must watch it.  It illustrates my post well.  Excuse the foreign subtitles. Every hooker has clients come to her that she prefers over others.…

  • Places I have worked part 2

    Places I have worked part 2

    London.  London was a very strange town to find work in.  Luckily I wasn’t desperate for money but I thought it would be interesting to check out the sex work scene, mainly so I could say I had done it. Even though it was equally as illegal to be a sex worker as it was…

  • Is it fun to be a sex worker?

    Is it fun to be a sex worker?

      Is it fun to be a sex worker?  My answer is yes, yes, yes and sometimes not so much. If you are considering doing it, you are likely to meet lots of men, most of whom you would never come into contact with in daily life.  Fascinating, eager to please and very sexy men…

  • Favourite lingerie – part 4

    Favourite lingerie – part 4

    Channelling the good old-fashioned whore In a previous life, I like to think I would have worked in an old-fashioned bordello, like the lovely one in the film The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas.  I just love the cheerful attitude toward customer service, and who can fail to adore the gorgeous Dolly Parton who played the…

  • Favourite lingerie – part 3

    Favourite lingerie – part 3

    Amber O’Hara: trying to give the impression she is innocent by wearing white As is obvious, I’m no virgin, and I’m not really interested in doing the schoolgirl fantasy for anyone or anything like that, but every now and then I get the urge to evoke an idea of purity, which white is good for,…

  • Favourite lingerie – part 2

    Favourite lingerie – part 2

    MILF feeling wild… The very first corset I bought was this red one.  I don’t wear it so much now because it has got a bit “baggy” and has some strange bulges in parts, even when it is on the tightest hook and eye fastening, perhaps because I loved it and wore it so much.…