Tag: GFE

  • Don’t go back!

    Don’t go back!

    I wanted to do a follow up post to my very early ones about some of my favourite things to wear for sex work. I could have deleted those posts (not just because they are dated) celebrating my black corset, red body suit,  white lingerie and red satin corset but I wanted to keep the…

  • Advertising and “bait and switch”

    Advertising and “bait and switch”

    With improvements in technology and the Prostitution Reform Act and ladies becoming independent and doing their own marketing, the sex industry has come so far.  You can more or less expect to get what you see in the photographs with independent escorts, although some complain of dishonest or overly-flattering photos or photos which were taken…

  • Sex and Skin Hunger

    Sex and Skin Hunger

    Image: J W Waterhouse The Awakening of Adonis (detail) Here is a guest post by a client talking about how sex workers have helped the issue of ‘skin hunger’ for him personally, following a discussion we had during our booking, which he has mentioned below.  I invited him to contribute to my blog after this discussion…

  • Sucking and Licking

    Sucking and Licking

    What do blow jobs have in common with Lobster Thermidor? We don’t get Lobster Thermidor at home much either. If you don’t get blow jobs much at home, as this well-known joke hints, you’re in luck, because most sex workers claim to love blow jobs, and in fact most quote the humble blow job as…

  • Actresses on Mattresses

    Actresses on Mattresses

    While sex workers can genuinely feel affection for some clients, there is usually an element of acting involved (as opposed to robotic and clinical sex work), whether it involves putting on a brave face when things are less than stellar in their private lives, or acting professionally pleasant when you just don’t feel like it…

  • Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    A guest contributor on my blog last year wrote in favour of mature ladies, acknowledging the benefits of more experience and knowledge of the wonders of a woman’s sexuality. While agreeing with this, as an “enlightened” (or I could say mature) woman who now feels okay about being real about my age – and a…

  • Is tantric sex desirable or even advisable with a sex worker?

    Is tantric sex desirable or even advisable with a sex worker?

    It’s no secret that one of my favourite “types” of sex is the tantric kind: a kind of slow, meditative, close and not necessarily climactic linking of two people. It’s indulgent: like savouring every mouthful – flavour, texture and sensation – of your favourite kind of food or wine and thoughtfully appreciating it even once…

  • What do men like?

    What do men like?

    Johann Zoffany: (part of) The Tribuna of the Uffizi (feat. Titian: Venus of Urbino) Here is a controversial anti-feminist – or is it? – statement by Amber O’Hara: Men are the delicious other halves of our lives – the yang to our yin, the strong to our vulnerable (supposedly) and the penises to our vaginas (if we…

  • A rose by any other name

    A rose by any other name

    Image: The Soul of a Rose by JW Waterhouse A lot of people call and ask about services, but if they are not that familiar with the sex industry or have never visited a working girl, they may not understand the meanings of some of the terms I (or other working girls) might use.  So…

  • Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)

    Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)

    Amber O’Hara’s mirror selfie in her boudoir Men who are single or whose partners are choosing to abstain from sex often have a desire or a fantasy for a more intimate and connecting sexual experience as if they were in the bed of a hot girlfriend who will not smack his hand or make him…

  • Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF

    Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF

    MILF, Ms O’Hara, has a thing going on with a number of young and young-at-heart men My non-Amber, slightly frumpy, mother-next-door self lives a double life as an insatiable MILF and this little secret injects a huge amount of spice into my life. As Amber, I am ready in my boudoir wearing tiny corsets, stockings and…

  • Selling sex

    Selling sex

      It seems that a few sex workers I have spoken to get a bit funny about the bit where clients hand over the money, and I can’t for the life of me see why.  To me, it is one of the most exciting parts and it is what differentiates us sex workers from the…

  • Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?

    Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?

    The first time I saw this image on an ex-punter’s blog, I just about came on the spot.  For some reason, it really does it for me.  Mainly because I find oral, from this angle in particular (as opposed to from the downward approach during 69ing), the most pleasing thing ever, and if a man…

  • Love Within Sex Work

    Love Within Sex Work

    I found this tweet the other day and it really resonated with me.  It’s because I feel exactly the same about my clients.  I really love those dudes!  A lot of the time I give my heart and soul to my clients, and get it back in spades. Which got me thinking.  Is this professional,…

  • Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

    Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

    (life as art) This long post was originally written for a sex industry association with the brief How Not to Pick the Wrong Sex Worker and the tagline “warning signs for clients”. It has been adapted for my blog Is there a wrong type of service provider or only a wrong type of service provider…

  • Advice from a Client

    Advice from a Client

    Les Nymphes et le Satyre by William Bouguereau. 1873, Clark Art Institute, Williamstown, Massachusetts. I welcome contributions from readers and clients, and while the contributor below has never been to see me, I gather he has chalked up quite a bit of experience seeing working ladies in his time.  Over to him: I have been…

  • Are you old enough?

    Are you old enough?

    Still from the music video of Dragon’s Are You Old Enough?   The legal age to be a sex worker in New Zealand is 18 and most sex workers will not accept clients under 18.  According to my (light) investigations, there is actually no age restriction for sex workers’ clients other than the age restriction…

  • Then and Now

    Then and Now

    Back in the day, before the Prostitution Reform Act happened here in New Zealand, I was a sex worker for a time, and I have to say, things really have changed, and not just legally. Life was different then, in that soliciting was illegal.  From what my fellow sex workers and I understood, this meant…