Tag: body
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Don’t go back!
I wanted to do a follow up post to my very early ones about some of my favourite things to wear for sex work. I could have deleted those posts (not just because they are dated) celebrating my black corset, red body suit, white lingerie and red satin corset but I wanted to keep the…
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Sex work after lockdown
You can’t please all of the people all of the time. You’ll need to login to enjoy this anonymous phone message It seems not long ago that Covid-19 broke out and we were forced into lockdown, and now we are nearly into level 2. According to the government business website, in level 2, non-medical massage…
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Love as community
Tiziano Vecellio, called Titian (b. Pieve di Cadore, ca. 1488-d. Venice, 1576), Venus Blindfolding Cupid, ca. 1565, Borghese Gallery, Rome A contemplation on Amber O’Hara’s What gets women off? and Love within Sex Work. Amber O’Hara proposes an interesting question in her two part series What gets women off? One guesses she explores this question…
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Equal and Unequal Measures
by Clio the Whore A Tourist’s Guide to the BDSM World Status is a funny thing and not always what you think it is. Service to others comes in surprising forms. What looks like sheer selfishness can in fact be a pure act of love. Where there is pain, there can be pleasure, in equal…
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Is your New Year’s resolution to have more sex?
Image: Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise in Eyes Wide Shut In 1999, Stanley Kubrick released his last film, Eyes Wide Shut, which starred Kidman and Cruise, ‘a Hollywood couple whose marriage was in trouble, about a New York couple whose marriage was in trouble.’ It was famous for an orgy scene, but in the subtext of the…
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Sex and Skin Hunger
Image: J W Waterhouse The Awakening of Adonis (detail) Here is a guest post by a client talking about how sex workers have helped the issue of ‘skin hunger’ for him personally, following a discussion we had during our booking, which he has mentioned below. I invited him to contribute to my blog after this discussion…
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Sex and religion – twain meeting
I always find it funny how sex (work) and religion are such a taboo combination when, as I mentioned in a previous blog post, Jesus himself was friends with a hooker. As far as churches go though, I have never found anywhere that I fit in. Even when I wasn’t a sex worker. There was…
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Lady on lady sex work adventures
Golden Head by Golden Head, illustration by Dante Rossetti for Christina Rossetti’s Goblin Marketand Other Poems(1862) Golden head by golden head, Like two pigeons in one nest Folded in each other’s wings, They lay down in their curtained bed – Christina Rossetti in Goblin Market It’s not just men who enjoy sexy times with sex…
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Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?
A guest contributor on my blog last year wrote in favour of mature ladies, acknowledging the benefits of more experience and knowledge of the wonders of a woman’s sexuality. While agreeing with this, as an “enlightened” (or I could say mature) woman who now feels okay about being real about my age – and a…
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Is tantric sex desirable or even advisable with a sex worker?
It’s no secret that one of my favourite “types” of sex is the tantric kind: a kind of slow, meditative, close and not necessarily climactic linking of two people. It’s indulgent: like savouring every mouthful – flavour, texture and sensation – of your favourite kind of food or wine and thoughtfully appreciating it even once…
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What do men like?
Johann Zoffany: (part of) The Tribuna of the Uffizi (feat. Titian: Venus of Urbino) Here is a controversial anti-feminist – or is it? – statement by Amber O’Hara: Men are the delicious other halves of our lives – the yang to our yin, the strong to our vulnerable (supposedly) and the penises to our vaginas (if we…
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A Bossy Girl Or a Dominatrix?
Remember when you were a kid and you’d see a loud-mouthed 12 year old girl getting about with a couple of 10 year old boys in tow hanging on to her every word, she’d be ordering them about, getting them to buy her gob-stoppers and generally acting like she owned the place? Well I wasn’t…
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Men love to look
How to hold the attention of men* There comes an interesting time in the lives of young women when we realise the effect that our body has on men. It could be when out of the corner of our eye, we see that male head is turned as we totter across the road in our…
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Cleanliness and godliness
The other day I was in a cafe and there was a young mother at the next table. She screwed up her nose a bit and said to her son, about 11 years old, “have you had a shower today?” He was quick to say yes, but I quickly glanced at his mother and she…
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Flirting and Squirting
My Nanna when she was alive was an incorrigible flirt. Even as she was dying in hospital, she was batting her eyelashes at and flirting with the male nurses, who were generous enough to humour her and play along. She used to say that every man deserves to be flirted with, that it’s good for…
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The Joy of Sex (Toys)
Gif: One of my favourite actresses, the late Anita Morris getting off on a mini vacuum cleaner from the film Ruthless People (a must-see if only for two of the great redhead stereotypes) The other week when a lovely client was going down on me and I was focusing on the amazing sensation, it dawned…
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Desire: The Secret
The Fisherman and the Syren by Frederic Leighton (1858) Sometimes when I start writing, if I have a theme or an idea I want to think about, I search online for the single word or phrase. I did this with desire only to discover that there are many self-help books out there around spirituality, in particular…
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What gets women off (part two)
Once upon a time, in a faraway land, there was a epidemic of sexual dissatisfaction called Hysteria. Women all over the place were getting it, the symptoms were vast and doctors were treating it by massaging the clitorises of their patients. This method of treatment would result in what was then known as a paroxysm,…
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What gets women off (part one)
It’s been widely concluded that it’s harder for women to get aroused than men, and that it takes longer. That some women lose interest in sex. That some women have a lower libido overall than most men. The thing is with (straight) men, a glimpse of bosom or derrière seems to be able to do…
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The pleasures of non-sex work
I often write about how much I love sex work, and one of the reasons I love it as a lifestyle is because it gives me so much time to get involved with various projects as non-Amber. Since I began sex working again, I learned a lot about publishing on Amazon kindle by guinea-pigging myself…
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Can his family affect a man’s confidence in bed?
Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny de Vito, two quite sexy dudes, played test-tube brothers in the film Twins* My usual Christmas blog posts have something related to families since this is the season to be with our kin or if not, due to distance or some other factor, at least give our thoughts to them for…
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What’s the deal with female orgasms?
Oh my. To my delight, my phone has been ringing lately with a few gentlemen who actually express that they have an intention for me to also come (or cum, but I prefer the other spelling). I think it is wonderful that for whatever reason, and there are probably many motivations for this, men are wanting…
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Selling sex
It seems that a few sex workers I have spoken to get a bit funny about the bit where clients hand over the money, and I can’t for the life of me see why. To me, it is one of the most exciting parts and it is what differentiates us sex workers from the…
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What it’s like to be the only one
Stephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch. It seems that even though our laws are similar, that is, that penetrative oral sex must also be covered, in recent times, in Australia sex workers have…
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Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?
The first time I saw this image on an ex-punter’s blog, I just about came on the spot. For some reason, it really does it for me. Mainly because I find oral, from this angle in particular (as opposed to from the downward approach during 69ing), the most pleasing thing ever, and if a man…
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Pleasure
Poor is the man* Whose pleasures depend On the permission of another From Justify My Love by Madonna © 2006 WMG Pleasure, according to a book I have been reading about women and aging, is something women deny themselves far more than is good for us. Apparently there is something that is released in our…
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Does the G-Spot exist?
Meg Ryan from When Harry Met Sally This is just a short post because occasionally I hear people saying the g-spot is a load of old cobblers. That may or may not be true as far as any anatomical identification goes in medical school. Rumour has it that it is the secret internal spot on the…
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Sublime Pleasure – how long is a piece of string?
Amore e Psiche by François-Édouard Picot (Painted 1817, Paris)* “How many times did you come?” is a question that many men wonder or even ask ladies after they have ascertained that their partner did actually orgasm while they had sex. However, orgasm for women is often not that cut and dried. I’ve been curious about…
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Orgasms – the great anti-aging secret?
Image: Jane Fonda – still hot in her advancing years – although she admits she has had plastic surgery, she is open about a happy sex life and her appreciation of porn. Could this be the real reason she still has a rather sexy twinkle in her eye? I’ve lost count of the number of…
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Love Within Sex Work
I found this tweet the other day and it really resonated with me. It’s because I feel exactly the same about my clients. I really love those dudes! A lot of the time I give my heart and soul to my clients, and get it back in spades. Which got me thinking. Is this professional,…