I know someone who decided to save her virginity until she got married, but eventually she became a crusty old unmarried thing rattling around with that dastardly virginity which she just could not lose, as potential husbands became thin on the ground, even with the glittering reward of her virginity on offer.  I, on the other hand, am clearly the antithesis of a virgin.

Virginity is such a funny thing.  Obviously it’s right for it to be valued among the very young (I personally remained reasonably untouched until I was 16 and I think that was a good age for me to begin enthusiastically exploring coitus) but the prize of virginity can actually turn into such a burden when one gets older if it lingers too long.  Then the thought of sex for the first time, of losing ones virginity, could probably be rather anxiety-inducing.  I do wonder if this is the case with the person I mentioned above.  A desperate hunt for the perfect partner to give the gift of your virginity to seems rather tragic as aging happens.  In my opinion, anyway.

As a sex worker, I am more than happy to help with chaste men who are ready to take their virginity with both hands and cast it away forever.  Despite my slightly tongue-in-cheek Christmas day post about sex and religion, or maybe as a continuation on the topic, I do think that sex can be an intensely spiritual adventure.  After all, it is an intimate physical coupling where the moments of climax can be almost psychotropic to the core of ones spirit because of its intensity.  I personally love the close connection and consider it a privilege to be invited to participate into someone’s entry into the wonderful and pure world of sexual activity.

However, having too much reliance on sexual techniques as seen in videos and too high expectations of ones performance the first time can be a bit of a curse.  My hope for first-timers would be for them to be reassured that there is nothing sweeter than a virgin or two fumbling along together, exploring each others’ bodies so innocently.  It is not a porn movie.  It is a learning experience, to be taken lightly and delightfully.

Happy new year, and may whatever you resolve come about.