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Sex work after lockdown

Sex work after lockdown

You can’t please all of the people all of the time.  Source: an anonymous phone message It seems not long ago that Covid-19 broke out and we were forced into lockdown, and now we are nearly into level 2. According to the government business website, in level 2, non-medical massage (the mind boggles, but non-medicalContinue Reading

Is sex work a profitable business?

Is sex work a profitable business?

A diagram of Michael Porter’s Five Forces based on an image from Porter M. E., Competitive Advantage: Creating and Sustaining Superior Performance (New York: Free Press, 1985), page 5. I once had a lady come and visit me for the day in Christchurch from Wellington because she wanted to interview me to figure out whetherContinue Reading

Deeper and Deeper

Deeper and Deeper

Still images in this blogpost are all from Madonna’s official video for Deeper and Deeper. Beware!  Our idols and demons will pursue us, until we learn to let them go! Now that I am a lady of a certain age, different things matter to me.  I like to take time smelling the roses, and I’mContinue Reading

Who’s that talking about you?

Who’s that talking about you?

Sharon O’Neill (right) who wrote the song Maxine with the actress who played her in the Australian version of the music video (which this image is taken from.) A few days after my Christmas day blog post about whether or not a sex worker should tell her family she is a sex worker, I had a longContinue Reading

Why would you want to be a sex worker?

Why would you want to be a sex worker?

Veronica Veronese* by Dante Gabriel Rossetti painted in 1872 with Alexa Wilding as the model.  It is believed to represent “the artistic soul in the act of creation”. I’ve always liked new beginnings although of course generally they are nothing more than a mental reset. So the start of a new year is as good aContinue Reading

Forced conversations when you’ve been outed

Forced conversations when you’ve been outed

Cyber bullying comes in many forms, from the relatively mild (but still harmful) tweet-bombing, Facebook posting, harassment on online forums etc, to the most dreaded extreme for sex workers – being publicly outed and/or lied about as a sex worker on websites set up to humiliate.  When this happens, and sex workers have to deal withContinue Reading

What gets women off (part two)

What gets women off (part two)

Once upon a time, in a faraway land, there was a epidemic of sexual dissatisfaction called Hysteria.  Women all over the place were getting it, the symptoms were vast and doctors were treating it by massaging the clitorises of their patients.  This method of treatment would result in what was then known as a paroxysm,Continue Reading

What gets women off (part one)

What gets women off (part one)

It’s been widely concluded that it’s harder for women to get aroused than men, and that it takes longer. That some women lose interest in sex. That some women have a lower libido overall than most men. The thing is with (straight) men, a glimpse of bosom or derrière seems to be able to doContinue Reading

Some men (who love their wives) visit escorts

Some men (who love their wives) visit escorts

Sometimes couples stay together because they really love each other and want to continue the personal investment they’ve made in their past and the family unit and home. The monogamous ideas that have been passed down through the ages means that couple are obliged to only make love with each other until the end ofContinue Reading

Is your heart safe?

Is your heart safe?

La Belle Dame Sans Merci, painted by Sir Frank Francis Bernard Dicksee Can sex work involve real affection or is one or both parties just being played? I don’t consider whatever feelings I’ve ever had or that have ever been declared to me during sex work ‘true love’, whatever the fuck that is, but IContinue Reading