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Tag Archives: money

Fond Farewells

Fond Farewells

This is a final blog post, by my friend, Clio the ex-whore, also recently retired. Retirement only sort of suits me. Only a couple of weeks ago an ex colleague and I were reminiscing over a few cocktails. We don’t miss it, we said, isn’t great to have a straight job and be proper respectableContinue Reading

I can’t make you love me

I can’t make you love me

It is probably safe to assume that most of society, even those who pride themselves on thinking progressively, in their heart of hearts, looks down on sex workers, but are mostly too polite to say so to our faces.  In the media, society’s attitude toward sex work is reflected often, even in the supposedly moreContinue Reading

Are you old enough?

Are you old enough?

Still from the music video of Dragon’s Are You Old Enough? The legal age to be a sex worker in New Zealand is 18 and most sex workers will not accept clients under 18.  According to my (light) investigations, there is actually no age restriction for sex workers’ clients other than the age restriction forContinue Reading

Exit: Stage Left

Exit: Stage Left

There comes a time in a sex worker’s life when, despite the lovely harem of men who are her willing clients, she sometimes thinks that she has had enough of fucking for money.  It may not be a feeling that comes on suddenly, like an epiphany, instead it may be a slowly evolving feeling ofContinue Reading

Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?

Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?

“I loved you since I knew ya, I wouldn’t talk down to ya”…* I’ve known sex workers since I began working as a teenager who have been in long term relationships with people since before they were sex workers, as well as relationships which started while they were sex workers with their clients and withContinue Reading

Dear Baby Hooker…

Dear Baby Hooker…

Congratulations!  You’ve recognised that you can put a value on something that there is a bit of a demand for and decided to become a sex worker.  Here are some things that I’ve gleaned over the years, or that I wish I’d known way back when. Once you’ve been a sex worker, you will alwaysContinue Reading

Where to from here?

Where to from here?

Amber O’Hara not ready to turn her back on sex work … yet It’s hard to believe that it’s almost a year since I embarked again on the sex work journey with certain financial goals in mind. My very first blog post, my personal yet public record of the events related to becoming a sexContinue Reading

Selling sex

Selling sex

  It seems that a few sex workers I have spoken to get a bit funny about the bit where clients hand over the money, and I can’t for the life of me see why.  To me, it is one of the most exciting parts and it is what differentiates us sex workers from theContinue Reading

High-class tarts versus low-down whores

High-class tarts versus low-down whores

I always find it interesting to hear opinions on the classes of sex workers and who fits where.  As I mentioned in my post about ship girls, we ship girls were considered pretty darn low-class for having sex with sailors, yet I found that the clients were some of the loveliest and kindest men IContinue Reading

Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?

Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?

Wellington Harbour, where I entered into the sex industry as a ship girl Most people who get into sex work get into it initially for one reason and one reason only – they need money fast.  Sometimes lingering under or just above the surface though, is an interest in or fascination with the sex industryContinue Reading