Tag Archives: danger

I can’t make you love me

I can’t make you love me

It is probably safe to assume that most of society, even those who pride themselves on thinking progressively, in their heart of hearts, looks down on sex workers, but are mostly too polite to say so to our faces.  In the media, society’s attitude toward sex work is reflected often, even in the supposedly moreContinue Reading

Forced conversations when you’ve been outed

Forced conversations when you’ve been outed

Cyber bullying comes in many forms, from the relatively mild (but still harmful) tweet-bombing, Facebook posting, harassment on online forums etc, to the most dreaded extreme for sex workers – being publicly outed and/or lied about as a sex worker on websites set up to humiliate.  When this happens, and sex workers have to deal withContinue Reading

Touring Roundup

Touring Roundup

The Canterbury Plains from the air I have recently completed a wee bit of touring and I thought I would post a few thoughts here. A number of you read my post where I mentioned an incident at a motel, and attention was brought to other incidents where touring working girls had left without payingContinue Reading

Sex work, mental health and sex addiction

Sex work, mental health and sex addiction

From the show The Daring Young Man on the Flying Trapeze by Max Gimblett I found it interesting when a sex worker I am acquainted with wrote that her father, on finding out she was a sex worker, enquired as to how she was going to safe guard her soul.  He could just as easily haveContinue Reading

Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers

Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers

I have to say we’re pretty darned lucky in countries like New Zealand where sex work is 100% legal because it means that if anyone tries to harm us, the cops are on our side. Absolutely fabulous situation, it means exactly that because there is the threat, of the long arm of the law whoContinue Reading

Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

(life as art) This long post was originally written for a sex industry association with the brief How Not to Pick the Wrong Sex Worker and the tagline “warning signs for clients”. It has been adapted for my blog Is there a wrong type of service provider or only a wrong type of service providerContinue Reading

Let It Be Known

Let It Be Known

I really love what I do.  I honestly feel that what I do helps mankind and is almost a spiritual service.  I don’t mind if you laugh.  I’m not saying I’m holy, or godly – I realise I’m the polar opposite of a nun.  But I know that I’ve helped people through this line ofContinue Reading

Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)

Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)

I’ve seen the OWE (other woman experience) happen a wee bit in my time doing sex work.  Last year a working girl friend of mine had a year long (in his eyes it was an affair) series of bookings with a regular client who declared his undying love, promised exotic holidays which she turned downContinue Reading

Protected: Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco

Protected: Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco

There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.

Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?

Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?

Wellington Harbour, where I entered into the sex industry as a ship girl Most people who get into sex work get into it initially for one reason and one reason only – they need money fast.  Sometimes lingering under or just above the surface though, is an interest in or fascination with the sex industryContinue Reading