Tag Archives: being outed

I can’t make you love me

I can’t make you love me

It is probably safe to assume that most of society, even those who pride themselves on thinking progressively, in their heart of hearts, looks down on sex workers, but are mostly too polite to say so to our faces.  In the media, society’s attitude toward sex work is reflected often, even in the supposedly moreContinue Reading

Sex Workers Starting With Why

Sex Workers Starting With Why

Why do sex workers do what they do? I’ve been enjoying the fabulous book Start With Why by Simon Sinek after a recommendation by someone I respect a lot and who has had an amazing career in their (creative) field. In fact I listened to the audio book and loved it so much that I’mContinue Reading

Forced conversations when you’ve been outed

Forced conversations when you’ve been outed

Cyber bullying comes in many forms, from the relatively mild (but still harmful) tweet-bombing, Facebook posting, harassment on online forums etc, to the most dreaded extreme for sex workers – being publicly outed and/or lied about as a sex worker on websites set up to humiliate.  When this happens, and sex workers have to deal withContinue Reading

Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?

Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?

“I loved you since I knew ya, I wouldn’t talk down to ya”…* I’ve known sex workers since I began working as a teenager who have been in long term relationships with people since before they were sex workers, as well as relationships which started while they were sex workers with their clients and withContinue Reading

So, you are the black sheep of the family…

So, you are the black sheep of the family…

Christmas is the time of year when we are confronted by where we came from – most of us, while not necessarily being physically present with our family members, at least make contact with them – and the realities of who they are (and maybe what they have always been like) becomes glaringly apparent. FamiliesContinue Reading

OUT!

OUT!

The Scream by Edvard Munch One thing sex workers seem to fear most is being outed, or an aspect of their lives being outed, and interestingly it is probably the most well-used threat some sex workers make against others. However, quite often sex workers let things slip, for example by their lifestyles or in conversationsContinue Reading

Who are my clients?

Who are my clients?

Édouard Manet painting possibly representing clients and sex workers Some people are curious and I have been asked who my clients are. I suspect to make themselves feel better about their negative attitudes towards sex work and to feel removed from it as much as possible, some like to think of sex workers’ clients asContinue Reading

Protected: What to do if you bump into your sex worker in public

Protected: What to do if you bump into your sex worker in public

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Protected: My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)

Protected: My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)

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