Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?

going-down-is-man-or-sex-toy-best01The first time I saw this image on an ex-punter’s blog, I just about came on the spot.  For some reason, it really does it for me.  Mainly because I find oral, from this angle in particular (as opposed to from the downward approach during 69ing), the most pleasing thing ever, and if a man is good at it, and the occasional man is EXCEPTIONAL, well, I’m just putty in his hands, or in his mouth, as the case may be.  Ask me anything at that point, the answer is likely to be “yes”.  Give me more.

But back to the image.  I love it all.  I love that she is wearing stockings.  I love that you can’t see her hands.  While her right hand is probably holding her leg up so that he can have easier access, with her left hand, is she stroking the back of his neck or lightly scratching the base of his hair or his shoulders or pushing his head down or is her arm stretched out on the bed like a one-armed starfish, ready to grip the bedsheet?  Any of these does it for me.  I love the look on her face, she’s not on Planet Orgasm yet, but she has a calm expression of anticipation while not knowing what will happen next.  I predict that before long those eyes will be glistening slits and her mouth will be contorting beyond her control, oh wow.

And as for him.  I love that you can see his tongue is doing it, you can see the action, it’s not just faking for the photo (oh I suppose it still could be).  Oh my god.  I love his fat, wet tongue.  While I am about to discuss sex toys, in the past I have not always used sex toys when doing sex work because there is absolutely no substitute for a live male, and while doing sex work, well, generally that involves a live male.  A live male, that is, with a penis and a tongue.  Not every man enjoys or is interested in going down on a working girl of course and that’s cool, then they absolutely should have no part in it, as it will not be enjoyable for either party.  Obviously, to enjoy a man going down on a woman, that woman needs a man who loves in particular to go down on a woman.  Not just someone who is going through the motions.  And I love this photo, because the man, it seems, is loving to go down on her.  I don’t even know if I can put into words how looking at this man makes me feel besides the words, WHAT A TURN ON.  Sigh.

My #sexworker friends back in the day, in their generalisations about men would say 'men with beards: they just want pussy on their faces'.

Worshipping and pampering a pussy like this has to be the hottest thing a man can do prior to fucking.  And the most effective as far as causing an orgasm in my opinion.  Men of all sorts can be skilled at it, young, old, smooth skinned, bearded (while some women don’t enjoy men with facial hair going down on them, I personally love beards – not stubble though, the discomfort detracts from the pleasure – and I especially love kissing and licking his mouth and beard afterwards, yum, although I also love men who don’t have beards doing it.  But my sex worker friends back in the day, in their generalisations about men would say “men with beards: they just want pussy on their faces” – not that beards really look like pubic hair, but it’s the general idea, and any man who wants to put his face on pussy is my idea of an excellent specimen of a man.  Do men with beards love going down on women more than clean shaven men?  They should add a question to the next census which will ascertain that because I am sure I am not the only woman who would like to know.)  But it’s always so surprising, you can meet someone who looks so unassuming and is a dynamo with his tongue.  And then a man who looks like he’d be up for everything, hardly wants to even kiss your mouth, let alone your pussy, heaven forbid.  But that is fine, there should be no shame and no blame if a dude doesn’t want to do it.  It’s just different strokes for different folks as they say, and of course with sex work, it’s not supposed to be about what pleases me necessarily.
Affordable and effective sex toys: I would recommend a purchase to any woman who is interested in finding out what kind of oral action works for her but does not have a willing partner.

Speaking of strokes, I like long, wet, vertical licks with the tongue to start off with…  But I won’t go into too much detail here as I think that sex acts should not be approached with a set order of proceedings, oral sex expecially is an exploratory and reactive thing.  Which leads me on to my discussion of affordable and effective sex toys – I would recommend a purchase to any woman who is interested in finding out what kind of oral action works for her but does not have a willing partner or she does not know yet how to instruct her partner or show him what works for her.  It would be useful for her to do some quiet exploring on her own, experimenting with pressure, speed and where to do what.

The trick when using a sex toy is to use lubricant when you begin, (covering the toy with a condom makes for easier clean up too) because the machine of course is not wet, and to start really slowly.  It needs to be moved around as if it is the real thing – you are mimicking the sensual teasing by a willing man.  Intensity (pressure, speed) of sensation is in your hands and you can tease yourself for quite some time, making yourself come then moving and playing some more.  

The good thing about sex toys is that you don't have to worry about a sex toy getting bored or his neck getting sore, and it is purely selfish, you don't have to give anything in return.

You need room, it is not really a thing you can do under the covers, your legs need to be free to extend involuntarily or whatever to change angles of access etc.  If you are having trouble coming for any reason but you are on the edge, I recommend ending with the age old trick of crossing your legs tight while you are using this sex toy.  Oh my.  You won’t know yourself.  Also, although some particular sex toys are supposed to be for exploring the vulva (external area) rather than the vagina (internal hole part), there are no rules really, and the wetter you get the further you can take it.  In some, you can also take different things apart to just use on its own.
“There are a thousand ways to make love with a woman. If you add sex, you have a thousand and one.” (Anonymous)

The good thing about sex toys is that you don’t have to worry about a sex toy getting bored or his neck getting sore, and it is purely selfish, you don’t have to give anything in return.  But on the other hand, nothing is as good as a real man, (whose arms you get to lie in afterwards) and I love the sound of a man murmuring appreciatively or lightly groaning when he is pleasing me etc, and I also love to touch a man’s arms and shoulders and hair, and ask him to do certain things for me and as well as that there is the delight in not quite knowing what he will do next and how long he will tease you for before he finally lets you fuck him, if he does.  (But that’s another blog post). “There are a thousand ways to make love with a woman. If you add sex, you have a thousand and one.” (Anonymous)

There is simply no substitute for a real person, as owners of blow up dolls all over the world have found I am sure.

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