Christmas is the time of year when we are confronted by where we came from – most of us, while not necessarily being physically present with our family members, at least make contact with them – and the realities of who they are (and maybe what they have always been like) becomes glaringly apparent. Families…
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Orgasms – the great anti-aging secret?
Jane Fonda – still hot in her advancing years – although she admits she has had plastic surgery, she is open about a happy sex life and her appreciation of porn. Could this be the real reason she still has a rather sexy twinkle in her eye? I’ve lost count of the number of…
Dear Baby Hooker…
Congratulations! You’ve recognised that you can put a value on something that there is a bit of a demand for and decided to become a sex worker. Here are some things that I’ve gleaned over the years, or that I wish I’d known way back when. Once you’ve been a sex worker, you will always…
Cleanliness and godliness
The other day I was in a cafe and there was a young mother at the next table. She screwed up her nose a bit and said to her son, about 11 years old, “have you had a shower today?” He was quick to say yes, but I quickly glanced at his mother and she…
Where to from here?
Amber O’Hara not ready to turn her back on sex work … yet It’s hard to believe that it’s almost a year since I embarked again on the sex work journey with certain financial goals in mind. My very first blog post, my personal yet public record of the events related to becoming a sex…
The Joy of Sex (Toys)
One of my favourite actresses, the late Anita Morris getting off on a mini vacuum cleaner from the film Ruthless People (a must-see if only for two of the great redhead stereotypes) The other week when a lovely client was going down on me and I was focusing on the amazing sensation, it dawned on…
Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)
Amber O’Hara’s mirror selfie in her boudoir Men who are single or whose partners are choosing to abstain from sex often have a desire or a fantasy for a more intimate and connecting sexual experience as if they were in the bed of a hot girlfriend who will not smack his hand or make him…
Men’s fantasies – Porn Star Experience (PSE)
It’s the fantasy of a lot of men to fuck a porn star or fuck like a porn star but sadly it is beyond reach for most guys. However if you visit a sex worker who specialises in PSE, it’s like you can direct and star in your very own porn movie with a very…
Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco
This blog post may not be of interest to many readers because it is about a film that not many will get to see and it is not really a film that’s even worth seeking out. But it’s about buying sex, which involves clients of sex workers so I thought I would give my take…
Fantasies about men
When I’m not doing sex work full-time, I actually miss fucking, and as a result of this, my imagination works overtime. I occasionally work in an office, answering the phone: “Good morning, (Company Name). (My real name) speaking” and generally being a real little goody-good in front of my computer. Various people come in every…
Selling sex
It seems that a few sex workers I have spoken to get a bit funny about the bit where clients hand over the money, and I can’t for the life of me see why. To me, it is one of the most exciting parts and it is what differentiates us sex workers from the…
Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?
The first time I saw this image on an ex-punter’s blog, I just about came on the spot. For some reason, it really does it for me. Mainly because I find oral, from this angle in particular (as opposed to from the downward approach during 69ing), the most pleasing thing ever, and if a man…
High-class tarts versus low-down whores
I always find it interesting to hear opinions on the classes of sex workers and who fits where. As I mentioned in my post about ship girls, we ship girls were considered pretty darn low-class for having sex with sailors, yet I found that the clients were some of the loveliest and kindest men I…
Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?
Wellington Harbour, where I entered into the sex industry as a ship girl Most people who get into sex work get into it initially for one reason and one reason only – they need money fast. Sometimes lingering under or just above the surface though, is an interest in or fascination with the sex industry…
The money, honey part 2
Disclaimer: This lovely pile of dosh was not all earned by Amber O’Hara, neither is it indicative of an amount a “typical” sex worker could expect to earn on a daily basis in New Zealand One skill that all working girls could consider getting would be the knowledge of how to keep a cash…
The money, honey part 1
It’s not that hard to go legit as a hooker, so I thought I would share a few things that I have found in case any other working girls who read my blog are interested. The first thing is to remember that we are actually in a pretty fortunate position here in New Zealand,…